Wounded Parents - the tragic legacy of dysfunctional families

“Most men are programmed to keep their emotions (except for anger) bottled up in a concrete bunker inside of themselves because that is what they learned from society and from their role models. Some men, of course, go to the other extreme and because they don’t want to be like their fathers are out of balance in not being able to own their anger - these men usually marry women who are like their fathers.” “What we traditionally have called normal parenting in this society is abusive because it is emotionally dishonest. Children learn who they are as emotional beings from the role modeling of their parents. “Do as I say not as I do,” does not work with children. Emotionally dishonest parents cannot be emotionally healthy role models, and cannot provide healthy parenting. Our model for what a family should be sets up abusive, emotionally dishonest dynamics.” “There is an additional way in which women are wounded by their fathers that I have never heard, or read, anyone talk about. It is a devastating blow that many daughters suffer on a subconscious level. It comes at a very vulnerable time and contributes more evidence to the message that there is something wrong/less than about being a woman that most girls have already received in ample supply from society and the role modeling of their mothers.”

On this page is a column by Spiritual teacher/codependence therapist about how Fathers wound their daughters who become mothers that wound their sons who become fathers. . . .

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Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls by Robert Burney is copyright 1995. Material on Joy2MeU web site (except where otherwise noted) is copyright 1996 thru 2013 by Robert Burney PO Box 235401 Encinitas CA 92023.

(The articles “Fathers” by Robert Burney originally appeared in Recovery Today a monthly newsletter of the LCDC training School which are distributed throughout the state of Texas.)

Originally published at https://joy2meu.com/mothersfathers.htm