Emotional Discernment - disarming the emotional mine field within
Emotional Discernment - disarming the emotional mine field within
“What is so important in doing the inner work is to start learning to have some discernment at how we relate to our own inner process. To start realizing that these inner child buttons - like the critical parent voice - are just parts of our psyche, they do not define who we are. When one of our inner child wounds is activated, it feels like our total being - our total reality. It feels like the feeling we are experiencing is our total truth. It is not.” “In our codependency, we reacted to extremes. The overreact or underreact, blame them or blame me, dynamics of the disease. Thus when a wound is triggered, when someone steps on one of our internal emotional mines, we either explode at the person whose behavior has recreated that wounding - or we stuff it to keep from overreacting. Either way, we are not doing anything to heal those wounds - and we are being emotionally dishonest in the situation.” “It is possible to take responsibility for the things we do have the power to change - our own attitudes, behaviors, and feelings - and change our relationship with the things we do not have the power to change. That is the key to developing some serenity, some inner peace, in our lives.”
This is the eighth in a series of articles focused on how to apply the Serenity Prayer in our lives by having the wisdom and discernment to recognize the things we do have the power to change.
Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls by Robert Burney is copyright 1995. Material on Joy2MeU web site (except where otherwise noted) is copyright 1996 thru 2015 by Robert Burney PO Box 98 Fallbrook CA 92088.
Emotional Discernment - disarming the emotional mine field within was originally published online on the Inner Child/Codependency Recovery page that I edit for Suite101.com Directory on January 28, 2003. There is a list of - and links to - other articles recently published on that Directory on my Suite101 Articles page.
Originally published at https://joy2meu.com/emotional_buttons.htm