Codependent Relationships - Toxic Love

“We are set up to fail to get our needs met in Romantic Relationships because of the belief system we were taught in childhood and the messages we got from our society growing up.” “This dance of Codependence is a dance of dysfunctional relationships - of relationships that do not work to meet our needs. That does not mean just romantic relationships, or family relationships, or even human relationships in general. The fact that dysfunction exists in our romantic, family, and human relationships is a symptom of the dysfunction that exists in our relationship with life - with being human. It is a symptom of the dysfunction which exists in our relationships with ourselves as human beings. And the dysfunction that exists in our relationship with ourselves is a symptom of Spiritual dis-ease, of not being in balance and harmony with the universe, of feeling disconnected from our Spiritual source. That is why it is so important to enlarge our perspective. To look beyond the romantic relationship in which we are having problems. To look beyond the dysfunction that exists in our relationships with other people. The more we enlarge our perspective, the closer we get to the cause instead of just dealing with the symptoms. For example, the more we look at the dysfunction in our relationship with ourselves as human beings the more we can understand the dysfunction in our romantic relationships.” (All quotes in this color are from Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls by Robert Burney) “As long as we believe that we have to have the other in our life to be happy, we are really just an addict trying to protect our supply - using another person as our drug of choice. That is not True Love - nor is it Loving.”

This is the second in a series of articlesabout the ways in which romantic relationships in our society are set up to be dysfunctional.

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Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls by Robert Burney is copyright 1995. Material on Joy2MeU web site (except where otherwise noted) is copyright 1996 thru 2015 by Robert Burney Po Box 98 Fallbrook CA 92088.

(The original column “Toxic Love” by Robert Burney first appeared in the Information Press of San Luis Obispo California.)

This series of articles was originally published online on the Inner Child/Codependency Recovery page that I used to edit for Suite101.com Directory - although bits and pieces of the articles have been part of articles and web pages published previously.

Originally published at https://joy2meu.com/codependent2.htm