A Dance of Shame, Suffering, and Self-abuse - the codependent three step
A Dance of Shame, Suffering, and Self-abuse - the codependent three step
“Codependence is an incredibly powerful, insidious, and vicious disease. It is so powerful because it is ingrained in our core relationship with ourselves.” *** “Codependency is insidious because it is so pervasive. The core emotional belief that there is something wrong with who we are as beings affects all of the relationships in our life and keeps us from learning how to Truly Love. In a Codependent society value is assigned in comparison (richer than, prettier than, more spiritual than, healthier than, etc.) so that the only way to feel good about self is the judge and look down on others. Comparison serves the belief in separation which makes violence, homelessness, pollution, and billionaires possible. Love is about feeling connected in the scheme of things not separate. Codependence is vicious because it causes us to hate and abuse ourselves. We were taught to judge and shame ourselves for being human. At the core of our relationship with ourselves is the feeling that we are somehow not worthy and not lovable.”
On this page is a column about the vicious self perpetuating cycles of self abuse that are part of the dynamics of codependence.
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Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls by Robert Burney is copyright 1995. Material on Joy2MeU web site (except where otherwise noted) is copyright 1996 thur 2015 by Robert Burney PO Box 98 Fallbrook CA 92088.
(This column originally appeared in the Information Press of San Luis Obispo California.)
Originally published at https://joy2meu.com/codependent.htm