Codependency Recovery: Wounded Souls Dancing in the Light
Codependency Recovery: Wounded Souls Dancing in the Light
Book 2: A Dysfunctional Relationship with Life
Chapter 11: Codependent Counselors / Therapists / Healers
“Any counselor / therapist / spiritual teacher / healer who has not done the inner child healing and codependency recovery work both emotionally and intellectually, is going to be limited in their ability to help other people. They will be able to help people up to the point they have been willing to go in their own personal healing - but after that point, the impact they have on the people they are working with may become negative.” Our mental health system not only does not promote healing - it actually blocks the process. The mental health system in this country is designed to get your behavior and emotions under control so that you can fit back into the dysfunctional system. “Although psychotherapy can be much more helpful in the healing process than psychoanalysis ever was, it is often still deficient in the area of the emotional healing - because so many therapists and counselors out there haven’t done their own grief work.” “The dynamics of the wounding process that creates codependency involves layer upon layer of wounding. The amount of grief and pain that we are carrying is enormous. If all of our denial and rationalization were stripped away at once, it would kill us. Those levels of denial are peeled away gradually in recovery. This is not a process of feeling some grief about something that happened and then being done with that issue. Recovery is an unfolding journey. . . . . Recovery is an ongoing growth process - a transformational journey. Healing our issues is an continuing process of uncovering, discovering, and recovering. Any therapist or counselor who is not willing to actively be in recovery, who thinks they are finished with their emotional healing work, is being tricked by their codependency into complacency and stagnation.”
“Anyone - counselor, therapist, sponsor, parent, friend, whatever - whose perspective is based upon a black and white / right and wrong belief system, will project judgment and shame onto the people they interact with / work with / give advice to / counsel. Because they believe they know what is right and what is wrong, they will see their purpose as getting you to do things “right.” If they are successful at manipulating / bullying / shaming / “guiding” you to do things their way, they will take ego credit and see it as proof of their worth. If you do not do it their way, they will blame, shame, and be abusive to you. This is simply a manifestation of how codependency works.”
On this page is the eleventh chapter of an online book by codependency therapist/Spiritual teacher.
Emotionally Challenged Counselors and Therapists
Grief work vital as part of integration process
Emotional Vampires & Black and White Thinking
Codependency Recovery: Wounded Souls Dancing in the Light Book 2: A Dysfunctional Relationship with Life Go to Chapter 12: Codependency in New Age Movement - Published online January 16, 2003
September 2005 - Chapters 3 through 15 of this work are now exclusively available in the Dancing in Light pay to view component of Joy2MeU.com
Inner Child Healing - Choosing a therapist or counselor with DiscernmentObsession / Obsessive Thinking Part 1
Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls by Robert Burney is copyright 1995. Material on Joy2MeU web site (except where otherwise noted) is copyright 1996 thru 2008 by Robert Burney PO Box 235401 Encinitas CA 92023.
Originally published at https://joy2meu.com/codependency_therapy.htm