Codependency Recovery: Wounded Souls Dancing in the Light
Codependency Recovery: Wounded Souls Dancing in the Light
Book 2: A Dysfunctional Relationship with Life
Chapter 3: Emotional Honesty
“What is so insidious about codependency, is that it is entrenched in our core relationship with self and life. The intellectual paradigm that determines our perspective of our self - and therefore how we behave in relationship to life and other people - is subconscious until we get into recovery and start becoming conscious enough to stop being the victim of false beliefs, of delusional and insane expectations. Until we start becoming conscious, we are powerless over our behavior because we cannot see our self with any objectivity. Since the only choices in the polarized perspective of life (that was imposed upon me in childhood) were right or wrong - and wrong was shameful - my ego tried to protect me from the toxic shame I felt at the core of my being with denial and rationalization.” “There was no way that I could start changing the way I was relating to life until I started to own my fear. Fear is not a bad thing - just as sadness, pain, and anger are not negative or bad in and of themselves. Emotions are a vital part of our being that need to be owned, honored, and respected. Denial and repression of emotions is what leads to negative consequences.” “Focusing on the future or the past, blaming them or blaming me, underreacting or overreacting (stuffing my feelings until they exploded forth in ways that made me feel crazy and ashamed,) feeling triumphant over “winning” or wanting to die because I was such a loser, were the rhythms of my dance of codependency. As long as I was in denial and unconsciously reacting to life I was doomed to “keep doing the same thing over and over again while expecting different results.” Unconsciousness doomed me to ride on a merry go round of cause and effect - never getting anywhere different emotionally. As long as I was incapable of being emotionally honest with myself, I was doomed to keep repeating the patterns that dictated my emotional reality. Codependency recovery is the path to finding enough freedom from the past to find happiness and Joy in being alive today.”
Insane Expectations - Road Rage
The specific area that opened me up to a new perspective on my insanity, was starting to understand what my part was in the road rage I was experiencing driving on the streets and freeways of Los Angeles.Ý Looking at the cause and effect relationship between my expectations and the rage I was feeling at all the stupid blankety blank drivers in Southern California greatly accelerated my process of becoming emotionally honest with myself - and opening up my mind to a Spiritual Awakening, a paradigm shift in consciousness. . . . .
Twisted and Distorted is the Dance of the Emotional Cripple
Control and fear - thinking to avoid feeling
Codependency Recovery: Wounded Souls Dancing in the Light Book 2: A Dysfunctional Relationship with Life Go to Chapter 4: false self image - Published online May 27, 2002
September 2005 - Chapters 3 through 15 of this work are now exclusively available in the Dancing in Light pay to view component of Joy2MeU.com
Discernment in relationship to emotional honesty and responsibility 2May 23, 2001 Joy2MeU Update
Author’s Foreword to this work on Codependency RecoveryThe Story of Joy to You & Me
Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls by Robert Burney is copyright 1995. Material on Joy2MeU web site (except where otherwise noted) is copyright 1996thru 2008 by Robert Burney PO Box 235401 Encinitas CA 92023.
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