Codependency Recovery: Wounded Souls Dancing in the Light
Codependency Recovery: Wounded Souls Dancing in the Light
Book 2: A Dysfunctional Relationship with Life
Chapter 5: Codependency = conditioned reactive programming
“Codependency is a conditioned reflex. It is a form of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (Codependence as Delayed Stress Syndrome.) It is an effect of brainwashing, a result of behavior modification. Codependency is condition, or dis-ease, that is caused by environmental conditions and conditioning rather than a phenomena which is genetic or innate to human nature. (Disease = a disturbance in a natural process, an abnormal condition which disturbs normal organic structural integrity / process.)” “The purpose of codependency recovery and inner child healing is to clear up our relationship with the horizontal - with self and how we relate to everything and everyone in our human environment - so that we can learn how to integrate the Spiritual into the physical and bring some balance and higher meaning to this human dance we are doing. We are here in body at this time to manifest Love into this human experience. We cannot do that without first learning how to access Love for our self. In order to do that, it is necessary to awaken to how the environments we grew up in conditioned us to live life in a way that is dysfunctional in relationship to the Spiritual / vertical component of our being - in a way that does not work to help us reconnect with Love.” “A dog who was abused as a puppy will cringe and shrink back (somewhat similar to internal feeling which causes the classic codependent form of codependency) or snarl and bite (one of the counterdependent flavors of codependency) when anyone attempts to touch it. This is a conditioned reflex. This can be seen as the result of emotional abuse, but it is not the result of the animal having a damaged self image.” “A dog who was abused as a puppy can unlearn their conditioned reflexes by spending enough time in a safe and loving environment. Although a safe and loving environment can be very valuable to a human being who is healing from their childhood wounding - the emotional trauma they experienced because of behavior modification experiences in early childhood - love from external sources is not enough to heal a person’s relationship with self.” “Unfortunately, there are many people in twelve step programs who have not been willing to get emotionally honest with themselves - who are scared of feeling the feelings because they haven’t changed the subconscious programming that keeps them in denial. That denial and emotional dishonesty keeps them stuck in bondage to the ego’s false self image. One of the reasons that I feel compelled to keep writing more about this process is because there are so many wounded codependents out there who do not know how to do the integration and reprogramming work that will help them open up to Love. Hopefully, some of the ways that I am explaining the wounding and recovery process in this online book will speak to some of those wounded codependents - especially to all of the suffering codependents in Alcoholics Anonymous.”
On this page is the fifth chapter of an online book by codependency therapist/Spiritual teacher.
Codependency = conditioned reactive programming
Awakening from the bondage of ego programming
Post Traumatic Stress Disorder / Brainwashing / Behavior Modification / Conditioned Reflex
relationships horizontal and vertical
Animals are trained - Human Beings are emotionally traumatized
Ego - consciousness of self
Codependency Recovery: Wounded Souls Dancing in the Light Book 2: A Dysfunctional Relationship with Life Go to Chapter 6: ego strength vs self worth - Published online July 5, 2002
September 2005 - Chapters 3 through 15 of this work are now exclusively available in the Dancing in Light pay to view component of Joy2MeU.com
The Dance of the Wounded Souls TrilogyInner Child Healing - Part 16 - Reprogramming our ego defenses
Spirituality for Agnostics and AtheistsThe Recovery Process for inner child healing - spiritual integration
Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls by Robert Burney is copyright 1995. Material on Joy2MeU web site (except where otherwise noted) is copyright 1996 thur 2006 by Robert Burney PO Box 235401 Encinitas CA 92023.
The column Inner Child Healing - Part 16 - Reprogramming our ego defenses was originally published on January 4, 2000 on the Inner Child / Codependency Recovery page that I edit for the Suite101.com Directory.
The Dance of the Wounded Souls Trilogy is being published in draft form in the Joy2MeU Journal.
Originally published at https://joy2meu.com/codependency_ego.htm