The Heart Break of Romantic Relationship - part 2
The Heart Break of Romantic Relationship - part 2
“If you cannot be angry at someone you cannot be emotionally intimate with that person.” *** “It is a double set up for women in this society. First of all the men were taught that it was not manly to be emotional and that what makes them successful as a man is what they produce - and then women were taught that they needed to be successful in romantic relationships with emotionally unavailable men in order to be successful as a woman. What a set up!” *** “Overreacting to our patterns is just as dysfunctional as reacting to the wounds that caused the patterns. If we discover a pattern - say, that we leave relationships before we can be left - and we overreact and decide to stick it out in the next relationship no matter what, that can lead to us accepting a lot of abuse in the name of recovery. If we are in reaction and trying to figure out what is right and wrong - we are giving power to the disease.” *** “Romance means nothing without emotional intimacy. “In - to - me - see” We can not share our self with another being unless we can see into our self. As long as I couldn’t be emotionally intimate with myself, I was incapable of being emotionally intimate with another human being.”
On this page is part 2 of a web article by codependency therapist/Spiritual Teacher about how we are set up to have our hearts broken in romantic relationships.
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