The Emotional Dynamics of Dysfunctional Romantic Relationships
The Emotional Dynamics of Dysfunctional Romantic Relationships
“A relationship is a partnership, an alliance, not some game with winners and losers. When the interaction in a relationship becomes a power struggle about who is right and who is wrong then there are no winners.” *** “The way the dynamic in a dysfunctional relationship works is on a come here - go away cycle. When one person is available the other tends to pull away. If the first person becomes unavailable the other comes back and pleads to be let back in. When the first becomes available again then the other eventually starts pulling away again. It happens because our relationship with self is not healed. As long as I don’t love myself then there must be something wrong with someone who loves me - if someone doesn’t love me than I have to prove I am worthy by winning that person back.” *** “The people that come into our lives are teachers. They enter our lives to help us grow. Unfortunately in childhood we did not get taught that life was full of lessons to be learned - instead we were taught that if something “bad” happens it is because we are bad, we have done something wrong. We got taught that life is a test that we can fail if we don’t do it “right.” So, we live life in fear.”
On this page is part one of a web article by codependency therapist/Spiritual Teacher about the emotional dynamics of dysfunctional romantic relationships.
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