Fear of Intimacy - Relationship Phobia
Fear of Intimacy - Relationship Phobia
“. . . . I am going to be sharing how my fear of intimacy caused me to sabotage my latest romantic relationship which in turn led to me opening my heart in a Truly magnificent way. In order to lay the groundwork to explain the great breakthrough I had in my personal growth process - which also turned into the single most excruciatingly emotionally painful experience of my recovery - I am this month going to share a summary of my relationship patterns which were driven by my fear of intimacy issues.” “I did not again in the next twenty years, make the mistake of getting involved with someone who was available enough to have the power to hurt me like that. I pursued only unavailable women. I always had someone unavailable that I was obsessing over, trying to figure out how to get her to see how wonderful we could be together. (This was completely unconscious and something I only realized looking back at my patterns in recovery.)” “It was my emotional incest issues that really dictated my emotionally intimate relationships. Obsessing about someone who was unavailable, feeling betrayed by their inability to see our potential, feeling abandoned when they rebuffed me, was the less painful of the two extremes that my spectrum in relationship with romantic relationships involved. The result which would have been more devastating - in my subconscious emotional perspective of the options available to me - was getting into a relationship with someone who was available and being revealed for the shameful, unlovable being that I felt I was.”
On this page is an article by inner child healing pioneer / Spiritual Teacher / codependency therapist on his fear of emotional intimacy defenses.
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Fear of Intimacy - Relationship Phobia was originally published online on May 31, 2004 on my Inner Child / Codependency Recovery topic page on the Suite101.com Directory.
Originally published at https://joy2meu.com/Relationship_Phobia.htm