Healthy Relationships - Part 4, Partners in the Journey
Healthy Relationships - Part 4, Partners in the Journey
“If we expect a romantic relationship to “fix” us so that we can live happily-ever-after then we are setting ourselves up to be victims. If we define a successful relationship as one that lasts forever and meets all of our needs, then we will end up blaming ourselves or the other person when that insane expectation is not met.” *** “Healing is an inside job. My issues are my responsibility to work through, it is not the other persons job to compromise her self to accommodate my fears and insecurities. If I am choosing wisely when I enter into a relationship then I will choose someone who will be compassionate, patient, and supportive of me while I work through my issues.” *** “When we are willing to own our power to be the neutral observer who can see our responsibility in whatever is happening without shame and judgment, and can also have the courage and willingness to hold the other person responsible for their behavior without shame and judgment - then the magic can really happen. "
On this page is the fourth in a series of articles by Spiritual teacher/codependency therapist focused on healthy romantic relationship behavior.
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This column was originally published on December 7, 1999 on the Inner Child/Codependency Recovery page that I used to edit for Suite101.com Directory.
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