Healthy Romantic Relationships - part 3, Emotional Honesty Necessary
Healthy Romantic Relationships - part 3, Emotional Honesty Necessary
“Anyone who is unconscious to how the people and events of their past have shaped who they are today, is incapable of being present in the now and having a healthy relationship. When we are reacting unconsciously to the emotional wounds and old tapes from our childhoods, we are being emotionally dishonest in the moment - we are mostly reacting to how we felt in a similar dynamic in the past, not clearly responding to what is happening in the present.” *** “Codependence is an emotional defense system which tries to take ego credit for things that go the way we want them to, and blames someone else when they do not. . . . . . If a person has not been working on healing these emotional wounds, then any feedback will be felt as criticism - as being wrong or bad - and the persons defense system reacts by becoming defensive.” *** “When we learn how to intervene in our own process so that we are not living life in reaction to old wounds then we start being capable of having healthy emotional intimacy.”
On this page is the third in a series of articles by Spiritual teacher/codependency therapist focused on healthy romantic relationship behavior.
Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls by Robert Burney is copyright 1995. Material on Joy2MeU web site (except where otherwise noted) is copyright 1996 thru 2015 by Robert Burney PO Box 98 Fallbrook CA 92088.
This column was originally published on October 26, 1999 on the Inner Child/Codependency Recovery page that I edit for Suite101.com Directory.
Originally published at https://joy2meu.com/Healthy_Relationships3.htm