Healthy Romantic Relationships - Interdependent, not codependent
Healthy Romantic Relationships - Interdependent, not codependent
“You are not going to live happily-ever-after once you find your prince or princess. There is no happily-ever-after on this plane of existence. You may find your prince or princess but they will have issues to deal with. Relationships are something that needs to be worked on - not some magic wand that makes everybody happy.” *** “A healthy romantic relationship is based on interdependence. Codependence and interdependence are two very different dynamics. Codependence is about giving away power over our self-esteem. . . .
. . . Interdependence is about making allies, forming partnerships. It is about forming connections with other beings. Interdependence means that we give someone else some power over our welfare and our feelings.” *** “It is impossible to Love without giving away some power. When we choose to Love someone (or thing - a pet, a car, anything) we are giving them the power to make us happy - we cannot do that without also giving them the power to hurt us or cause us to feel angry or scared.”
On this page is the first in a series of articles by Spiritual teacher/codependency therapist focused on healthy romantic relationship behavior.
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Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls by Robert Burney is copyright 1995. Material on Joy2MeU web site (except where otherwise noted) is copyright 1996 thru 2015 by Robert Burney PO Box 98 Fallbrook CA 92088.
The original version of this column appeared in the Information Press of San Luis Obispo California in 1997 - and appears on my web site as Codependence vs Interdependence-healthy relationship vs dysfunctional. This is an expanded version of that column was published on September 7, 1999 on the Inner Child/Codependency Recovery page that I edited for Suite101.com Directory.
Originally published at https://joy2meu.com/Healthy_Relationship.htm