A page dedicated to - and for - Darien
The latest update to this page added February 2012 - A new update added July 2017 - The Latest news 9/10/17 - Mobile Friendly News 6/17/18 & February 2019
To Darien
A page dedicated to - and for - Darien
The mugging goofball pictured here is my partner Susan’s grandson Darien. Before he could even walk or talk, before he even could crawl, I had started calling him Mr. Personality because of how expressive he was. He is my godson and step grandson - and his presence in my life is one of the greatest blessings of my recovery - one of the greatest gifts in my life. He is a precious, sweet, beautiful Spirit in a little boy body. He has brought great Joy to my life - and has taught me much about Love. He is a treasure. The idea of of putting up a web page dedicated to him had been coming up in my mind for awhile because I want to leave him some evidence of how special he is to me. I don’t know that I will be around long enough to see him grow up completely - and the thought of that makes me very sad. In fact now, when I think of how much longer I might live, it is always in the context of how old Darien will be by that time. When we had a health scare with him in January, I decided that I definitely wanted to get this page done. Just below is the announcement I sent out to my Joy2MeU e-mailing list about the terrifying experience we had in January when he got really sick. Special Joy2MeU & RobertBurneyLive Update January 17th, 2009 Hello Magnificent, Powerful Spiritual Being, I am sending this out to announce that we have launched the third of our new web sites . . . . But first I wanted to share with you a terrifying experience that we had this last week. The easiest and shortest way to do that is to share with you the messages I sent out to my yahoo mailing list this past week. Subject: Asking for some prayers for Darien Date: Tue, 13 Jan 2009 11:49 am I wanted to ask you all to say some Prayers for my precious little godson / step grandson Darien. He woke up Saturday complaining of a sore neck and then later of head aches and was running a fever some of the time. It got worse on Sunday and when I took him to the doctor yesterday they sent us right to the emergency room of Children’s Hospital. The doctor was afraid that he had an abscess in his neck. Once we got there they started him on IV antibiotics and scheduled him for a cat scan. Turns out he has strep throat and an infected tonsil and was developing an abscess. I think we caught it in time that he isn’t going to have to have surgery (surgery on his little neck does not sound like a good thing at all.) He was such a good boy that he was able to do the Cat scan without anesthesia. It had just been heartbreaking this weekend to watch our exuberant little man who is always dancing and skipping and running, walking really slowly and not wanting to be picked up because he was hurting so much (he did require lots of kisses on the affected areas however.) So, I spent the night with him last night after Susan relieved me long enough to go home and get a shower and take care of some e-mails and such - and she relieved me this morning. I will be going back in a couple of hours. Hopefully he doesn’t have to stay too long but I think we are really blessed that we seem to have caught it in time. It was a life threatening condition. So, a few prayers sent his way would be helpful probably. Will let you know how things unfold. Robert Subject: Darien is back to being himself Date: Wed, 14 Jan 2009 10:28 am Our precious exuberant little boy is back to being himself. When I had left yesterday morning he was still having trouble turning his neck because of the pain - and though I could see some improvement, he still wasn’t himself. He had slept really late yesterday and then didn’t get his nap, so by last evening I could tell he was quite a bit better but he was tired and cranky - and kept saying that he wanted to go home. Well he came out of that with a vengeance shortly after midnight - and then just kept chattering away to me until 5 am. This morning he is moving his head around almost without any problems and really his exuberant, playful, sweet, mischievous little self again. I haven’t had much sleep - but am just so very, very grateful that this beautiful little soul is back to being himself. The IV antibiotics and prayers did the job. Thanks to everyone who sent some Love our way. He should be coming home today. I am just so very, very, grateful that we caught this in time. Robert He got out of the Hospital on Wednesday afternoon and was well enough to go back to school on Friday morning. We are just so grateful that the Doctor recognized what he had so we could get it treated in time. The thought of potentially losing him was unbearably painful. ** (Just before he got out of the hospital they brought in a dog they use to cheer up kids - he is smiling again as you can see in the picture, but pale and not really healthy looking yet.)** It was a reminder that things can change in a blink of an eye - and it is important to really enjoy the blessings in our life today and to not let worrying about life stuff (like finances and such) get in the way of being present and finding as many moments of Joy in today as possible. Darien has brought Susan and I countless moments of Joy - he is such a blessing in our life. The new website is focused on Alcoholism and the Twelve Step Recovery process. In getting this site ready I rewrote the introduction page to that section - now the home page of this new site: http://www.twelvestepmiracle.com/ To to celebrate Darien’s recovery and my 25th sobriety birthday on January 3rd, as well as take some action on the financial front, I am offering some special deals on phone counseling, upcoming Intensive workshops, and on my book. . . . I have often said over the last 25 years that Gratitude isn’t nearly a big enough word to describe how blessed I have been to be in recovery. Take that to the nth power and multiply it by infinity and it comes close to how much Joy fills my heart at having this beautiful Spiritual Being that is Darien back to being his effervescent little self again. A couple of weeks ago I was taking him to the local Barnes and Noble which has a Thomas the train track set up that kids can play with. As we approached he started singing (something he does a lot - usually just LaLaLa or something of that sort but sometimes with words), “Thomas the book store, Thomas the book store.” (This is to separate it from Thomas a toy store - for a toy store locally with a Thomas the train set up.) I said something to him about singing a song, and he said, “I sing a song for you because I know it makes your heart happy. And that makes my heart happy.” Darien Truly makes my heart happy. Please enJoy the people, animals, and things in your life that make your heart happy - because we never know how long they (or we) will be around. Robert ** **
** “I can see clearly now that Darien is the first human being - since my parents when I was an infant - that I have ever opened up my heart to completely.”**
That sentence from the above quote says it all.
Below I am going to intersperse excerpts from my Update Newsletters and messages to my Yahoo e-mailing list in chronological order with comments I am adding now in this color. I am also going to put certain phrases or sentences in bold to emphasis where I mention Darien in the early Update excerpts. (My yahoo mailing list is for anyone who is interested to getting more frequent updates than my Update Newsletters : http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Joy_2_Me_U/join )
My History with Darien as it unfolded
Because of some problems I was having with my e-mail program - and the reality that I didn’t have much time any more to write - I started a new e-mail list on Yahoo that I announced in that August 2007 Update. I only seem to find the time to do about 3 Updates a year now - so this provides me with an arena where I can more often send out announcements and share what is happening with people who are interested in hearing from me more often.
For the rest of this page I will intersperse the excerpts from the Yahoo mailing list messages with excerpts from my Updates. I will use red for the heading of the Yahoo messages (and no indentation) and use the link and indentation for my Update Newsletters.
Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls by Robert Burney is copyright 1995. Material on Joy2MeU web site (except where otherwise noted) is copyright 1996 thru 2009 by Robert Burney PO Box 235401 Encinitas CA 92023.
12-14-09 I am posting this page today with the pictures. Will add the stories and processing that I plan to do here in a couple of days. 2-14-10: As the line before mentions, I actually posted most of these pictures back in December and am just adding the stories on Valentine’s Day 2010 - as well as sharing about the breakthrough that we have had in our relationship. Valentine’s Day seemed to be the appropriate time to do that.;-) ~ Robert
Update February 2012
As I am pulling together information to update this page at 3:35 am on January 29th, it suddenly dawned on me that I haven’t updated this page for 2 years instead of the year I was thinking it was. So I am just going to include a two excerpts from my January 2011 Update Newsletter that focused on Darien in 2010.
Tue Aug 17, 2010 5:31 pm from message Update on the Joy2MeU Adventure - asking for help, for Love offering to Yahoo Mailing list
“Part of the reason today was such an emotional day is that we took Darien for his first day in kindergarten in public school. The place was overrun with parents and kids - we had to park blocks away. There are over 80 kindergarten kids and none of the 20 in his room was anyone he knew. Darien got really upset and started crying. Susan and I also got really emotional. We had been hoping to put him in a Montessori School like his preschool. In fact Susan found one in Carlsbad that goes through 6th grade that she fell in love with. She took Darien to visit it last week and he really loved it. The director and one of the teachers spent almost an hour with Susan and Darien. When it was time to leave Darien thanked them for spending so much time with him and expressed his beautiful self so wonderfully that both of them - as well as Susan - got all choked up and teary eyed. He is such a beautiful, sweet soul. He told me the other day that he wants to learn everything and that is why he asks so many questions. (Like “What do we need plants for?” “Where did animals come from?” “How do you get to be a father?” “Do boy birds sing?” - this last was coming home from school one day when he started in with one of his trains of thought that went something like this: “Wouldn’t it be cool to be a bird! I could fly up in the sky and it would feel so wonderful! And sing beautiful songs. Do boy birds sing? Then I could sing beautiful songs and make the whole world happy.” He is really big on wanting to make the whole world happy and keeping the planet clean and beautiful.) In February, the last time things got so desperate that I had to send out an appeal to my whole e-mailing list, I mentioned that one of the things we needed to do was keep Darien in his Montessori school. “The response was overwhelmingly positive. Most people weren’t able to send anything, but did send good wishes and prayers - as well as thanks for having the courage to ask for help. There were a few people who responded very negatively and asked to be taken of the mailing list. There were also 3 or 4 people who wrote to say we should take Darien out of the Montessori School - that it was a luxury not a necessity. That couldn’t be further from the truth. We originally put him in that school because it was cheaper than regular day care. And it has been a great experience for him - he is so much more confident in socializing with other kids now, it is really great. The main reason to put him in the school however was to give me some time to work. I have almost no time to do any writing these days (witness the need to do it in the early am) - and find it impossible to do any kind of focused work that takes some concentration when his enthusiastic, exuberant little self is around. “During the time he is in school - basically 9 until 3 - is the time I have to get things done. Then and early in the morning or late at night. (Last night - with the help of a tooth ache - I stayed up until about 2 working on this.) My mornings are centered around getting him dressed and ready and off to school - and once he gets home in the afternoon it is hard to do anything that takes very much concentration and focus because he wants attention and help with various things. Or he wants to be on my computer playing games - which means I can’t be on my computer. The other day he changed the screen saver on my computer - 4 years old, and he is finding things on my computer that I didn’t know were there. I used to have more time in the afternoon or evening to get some things done before Susan started this job - but now she isn’t here near as much and is often pretty tired when she is.” - Feb. 5, 2009 message to Yahoo Mailing list quoted in April 2009 Update Newsletter It is between 9 and 3 on weekdays that I try to do most of my telephone counseling appointments, get to the post office to mail off orders, do the grocery shopping, etc., etc. He is a Joy and a blessing, but it is challenging to get any work done when he is around. So, having some time to myself is very important to me and keeping him in school was not a luxury.” - Joy2MeU Update Newsletter May 2010 This time of course, the Montessori School would be a luxury, because he can go to kindergarten in the public school for free. We really don’t want to send him there. The one time a few weeks ago that we went over there to check it out, there were older kids - maybe 3rd or 4th graders - running around, cussing and generally acting in ways we really don’t want him exposed to at this age. After that visit, we started searching frantically for other options. Most of the private schools are too expensive, and some of the them are not that great. But then Susan found this one in Carlsbad - which is about 10 miles away, but in the same vicinity as Susan’s office. It isn’t as expensive as most of the private schools - but still not in the realm of possibility when we can’t even pay the rent. The Montessori School doesn’t start until September 1st - while public schools started today, August 16th. (I am actually finishing this on the 17th.) We realized that no matter what we wanted, the Universe might have different plans. And that it could be best in the Cosmic Scheme of things for him to go to public school. Also, realistically, if we didn’t start him in public school and the end of the month comes without enough financial resources to send him to the other school we would be in a really bad position - perhaps having to start him in public school several weeks late. We certainly didn’t want to put him in that kind of position. In any case, what happened is that Susan became very upset and gestured for us to go. As we were leaving we ran into 3 of his friends from his preschool, but we were already leaving and he was so upset. When we got home I was an emotional wreck for a couple of hours. Just kept bursting in tears and sobs. It took me awhile to process through what was happening and realize I was reacting out of an inner child place on one hand. “By the time I was 4 or 5 I felt overwhelming shame. I felt like I was inadequate and defective because I was unable to protect my mother from my father.” - Union Within - healing the inner child And also reacting out of the old tapes that tell me I am a loser and a failure because I am not making enough money and able to support and protect my family. The old tapes that tell me that nothing I ever do is good enough because I am inherently flawed and defective - inherently unlovable and unworthy. When thinking about sending out this appeal during that time, it was going to start with something like, “My heart is so broken.” As I said, it took me a couple of hours to work through that - to set some internal boundaries with the critical parent voice and with the inner child places within me that feel so broken and damaged. Shortly after I had gotten to a place of more balance Darien came in to talk to me. He proceeded to tell me that he was so upset because there were so many people there - and that I should remember that it takes him awhile to get used to someplace new. He then said he wanted to go to school tomorrow (today) and “I promise that I will be really brave.” So, this morning I took the brave little man to school. It seemed like there were hundreds less people there and we were able to park right in front. Of course, we went early and his room was still locked. But then we connected with his teacher and she was really cool with him. She had to go into the office for a bit and Darien started dancing - doing what I think of as his Irish jig kind of a dance. By the time, she had shown him around the room and explained a few things to us, a few of the kids he knew from his old school had shown up. Last I saw of him, he was waving good bye as he ran to the playground to play before school started. So, more will be revealed about how this all works out - but as of today he has started kindergarten in the public school. By the time he came into tell me that he was going to be brave, I had worked through the reactions I had and remembered the Truth about asking for help. “Learning to have the humility and courage to ask for help was a vital component for me in learning to live life sober. I understand now that asking for help is an act of Love for my self, is part of taking responsibility for myself because I cannot do it alone - I was never meant to do it alone.” - Donations to the Cause / Love Offerings / Spiritual Tithes So, I am getting ready to publish this page now to demonstrate a willingness to be Loving to me. I have made up some pages with special offices on the products I have and on phone counseling. There is a list of those along with links to the offers pages just below the donation links. As far as the donations go, I have always sent energy back when anyone has been moved to send some green energy my way. “The Metaphysical Law of Karma - of cause and effect / giving and receiving / what you sow you reap - is what governs this life experience we are having. Giving and receiving are two parts of one dynamic - like breathing. As a friend of mine who is a New Thought minister says, “to say giving is more Blessed than receiving is like saying exhaling is more Blessed than inhaling.” Just as breath needs to flow in and out, so too does energy need to flow- on all levels, including emotional energy. Blocking the flow of any energy, whether it is money energy or emotional energy, is dysfunctional.” - Metaphysical Law: Giving and Receiving ~ Donations / Love Offering I know there is a perfect Divine Plan unfolding and that everything will work out for the best in the long run. What that is going to look like I can’t know - More Will Be Revealed. The reality of my life right now is I have never had such an abundance of Love in my life. Things between Susan and I are better than they have ever been (she asked me last week if we could just get married in Cambria soon) - and Darien continues to amaze us and bring so much Joy into our lives.”
Mon Sep 6, 2010 9:43 pm from message Update on the You are invited to our Wedding Reception to Yahoo Mailing list
“I added two updates to the request for help I sent out back on August 17th - will include them here and then a short summary of what happened after that. . . . “Update August 22, 2010: Some donations have been coming in, and some sales, enough that I told the landlady’s lawyer son on Friday that I should be able to pay the first half of the August rent by Tuesday or Wednesday. Today our best car broke down. If we are lucky it will just be a water pump and cost less than $600 - but doesn’t look like I will get the rent paid when I told him. Hopefully there are some more people who are going to take advantage of the great deals on phone counseling or the upcoming workshop or some more donations are on the way. The Adventure continues and More Will Be Revealed. Meanwhile Darien’s aunt and uncle took him to LegoLand on Friday and after riding the rides they went to the Waterpark- “the Greatest Day Ever!” according to the amazing little man. I got to watch him surf yesterday and was blown away. He goes boldly out into the waves with his boogie board - the man who doesn’t like to get his face in the water - and rides them in. Very cool! (A little scary for Papa to watch.;-) And he is loving the public school so far. He is obviously way ahead of where they are starting at, but I guess we don’t have to start worrying about him preparing for college just yet. I should have an announcement about the cruise in February later this week. We will get married next month but have a celebration on the cruise. Hard to have moments of Joy when waiting for the tow truck to come take the car to the shop - but not impossible. ;-) I know there is a Divine Plan unfolding here somehow. ~ Robert 8/22/10 6:22 pm Update August 27, 2010: Have gotten first half of August rent paid and all the major utilities covered - so that is very good news! The junker car we took on a month ago had some major problems but we found someone who wanted just that kind of car and sold it today - seemed like that car was going to be far more hassle than it was worth (it had a broken motor mount so I was having to drive very carefully.) Got the water pump on other car fixed for under $350 - it has some transmission problems going on but hopefully is good for awhile. We rented a car for a week while all this was going on but will have to give that back Monday (Susan mentioned on her Facebook page that it was a cool hybrid.) Having only one car will cause some major logistical problems but if we have to go that way for awhile we can work it out I am sure. Susan is going to see about buying a car on credit with perhaps a cosigner to try to get workable payments. We went to open house at Darien’s public school last night - and afterward Susan cried. We are not happy about his teacher or the situation. This afternoon Susan got an e-mail from the Montessori school saying they might be able to work with us. We both want so much to be able to send him there - but are willing to accept the Divine Plan if that doesn’t work out. Doesn’t look like I will be able to afford to record my Intensive a week from Sunday. We are very grateful to everyone who helped out or sent good wishes. Would be grateful to anyone else who wants to send some help our way. Hopefully a few people will take advantage of the special offers I have available before Saturday night when they expire. I am not sure we are going to be able to make the trip up to Cambria to get married as we planned in a couple of weeks - or that we will have a car that we feel confident enough in to make the trip. If we have to postpone it a few weeks, we can. We are just going to have a very simple ceremony with a few people up there and then have our real celebration on the cruise hopefully. (And hopefully, I will get some time this weekend to work on the page with information about the cruise.) I hope and pray this is the last time I have to ask for help in this way. I just got all emotional writing that. I really don’t like doing this at all, but accepting and surrendering and willingness to take action for me and my recovery have been the key to turning my life into an Adventure worth living instead of an endurance contest of suffering. This will be the last update to this page - I will probably do an Update Newsletter in September. I am going to close this with a quote from my book about acceptance and surrender and all those spiritual principles that are so vital to making life worth living - so vital to making it possible for me to still be celebrating life as a dance with many, many moments of Joy & Love in it no matter what is happening with the external circumstances. ~ Robert 8/27/10 5:42 pm” - /Help_2010 Two days in a row Darien came home with a “bad” slip (saying that he had to put his dog bone under a tree instead of at his doghouse like when he has a good day - where do they come up with these things) and an attitude. The second day he was the only one in the class of kindergartners who didn’t follow directions - like Abe said, excuse me, 17 5 years olds and he is the only one who doesn’t follow directions. The teacher had been teaching 6th grade for 17 years and at the open house said she would get through everything fast so we could get home and have a glass of wine. He was acting like an arrogant smart aleck and I could see him taking on a defensive attitude to survive in a hostile environment. The next day we started him in the Montessori School. They agreed to a lower price until his father is able to get more support through the army at which time we will pay them more. I was so emotional about being able to send him there - didn’t realize how much the other place was bothering me. Sometimes I practice acceptance so hard I end up stuffing feelings in the process. Am so grateful I had made and received enough by then to make it happen. That was last Wednesday. On Thursday Susan’s Dad bought her a new car - one that she will have to make payments to him for - it is a 2008 Hyundai with only 30,000 miles on it. So, that is great. Things are definitely better now and we are so grateful to everyone who sent some Love our way. The request I made triggered money coming in from places that had nothing to do with me asking for help - or nothing to do directly, but metaphysically it was all about putting it out there and having it come back from somewhere. I don’t know how things are going to unfold in the coming months because we are still running close to the edge but we got through a crisis period and are very GRATEFULL!!!!!!! Love and Joy 2 all of us, Robert
One more note on Darien 2010 - this is something that happened in summer that really touched me, so I want to share it.
Just reminded me of something that happened a few months ago with my step grandson Darien. He will be 6 in November - and he and I have this powerful connection to each other (even look alike though there is not blood relationship.) One day he was asking questions about various things like he does (wants to know everything) and talking about when he was a baby because of a picture of him on the wall. I told him that the first time I met him (he was about 3 or 4 months old) that he cried (Susan thought it was because my deep voice scared him) - and he says, “From Joy?” It was a mind blower to me that a 5 year old understood that it was possible to cry from Joy - and that that was his assumption about what he would have felt the first time we met. :-)
In the January 2011 Update I did announce that we were getting married two days later - and so now on with 2011. I am mostly going to adding pictures this time - with a few little stories and two longer excerpts. I used to keep a running list of the cute and amazing things he did and said - but quit doing that quite awhile ago. There are too many of them in any case - so am just keeping this update of this page simple this time.
Update July 2017
**New & News July 12, 2017: **Announcing that I am changing the date for the next Intensive Training Day in Encinitas to August 6th. Now that I have my grandson Darien living with me I wanted to create the possibility that we might be able to move back to the Central Coast of California. I lived in Cambria for many years and loved it - and always wanted to move back up there. I have stayed in San Diego however to be close to Darien in case he needed me. Now he needs me, but since he is living with me, we can move together - and it seems the schools there are a lot better than down here. It is more likely we will move to Morro Bay than Cambria - because it is a bit more affordable, but it will be expensive to move and I am not sure if we will be able to do it this summer. It is possible we will need to stay where we are for another school year. If we do move this will probably be the last Intensive Training Workshop that I will do in San Diego. I would put the odds at about 75% we stay, and 25% we move at the moment but if I had left the date on the 20th it would have been the day before school starts up there, so am making the change to open up possibilities.
Since February 2012
4th of July in Nebraska
The following update was added to my first Update Newsletter in over 6 years - and a new site. Joy2MeU2.com (I am just going to include the text now, and insert new pictures later when I am done with all that I have to do with this update and announcing it. June 25th - adding the pictures today.) Update June 17, 2018 So, I have gotten to see Darien regularly - at least once a month, and some months more. And the great news is the dog now knows what to do on a walk - so he has been coming to visit regularly also. Darien and the dog came over when school was over the last weekend in May and stayed for almost 2 weeks until I took him back up there. I am going to get him next Wednesday for another few weeks. There is a chance he could come and live with me and go to school here for 8th grade come August - more will be revealed about how that works out. I am soooo incredibly grateful to be back here in Cambria. I take a walk on the Ranch at least once a day - and twice whenever I can. I see otters and deer almost every day. I saw dolphins one day last week and a whale on another. I haven’t seen any turkeys for a couple weeks but when Darien is here with his dog - whose name is Hunter - and I take him for a walk in the morning I can usually hear them gobbling. I also have seen a weasel on the Ranch a few times - cute little thing. And lately a skunk - I do not want to have any close encounters with it! I love living here - and want to be here for the rest of my life. I feel so much gratitude and Joy on a daily basis. I started a CoDA meeting and it is really great. The meeting yesterday was so emotionally honest - such great recovery happening. There is also a CoDA meeting in San Luis Obispo that I go to most weeks - one of the few times during the week I leave town. After all the driving in traffic in San Diego, I am all about staying in my little home town as much as possible now. Except of course when I am going to pick up Darien. ;-) I have cried a lot while getting this Update together - especially today. I am just so very very grateful for me recovery and all the gifts that have come into my life over the last almost 34 1/2 years (on July 3rd.) . I just had the 32nd anniversary of my conscious commitment to codependency recovery - what an incredible gift it has been. Joy to You & Me, Joy2MeU (the story of where those brands came from is told in the anniversary story I just linked), and now Joy2MeU2. What a ride! What an incredible adventure!!! LOVE IT!!! With wishes of Joy and Love to U & Me, Robert
I have a new Mobile Friendly site that I have posted two Update Newsletter on as of March 2019 - with news of Darien and I. The linkes are here for June 2018 and here for February 2019.
Anyone who would like to get the more frequent updates can join the Yahoo group by clicking this button.
7-12-17 I am not updating the Yahoo groups any more - and haven’t for years - but the old posts are still there if anyone wants to check them out.
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