Training for Counselors / Therapists / Coaches / Healers in Robert Burney's Inner Healing Formula

Training for Counselors / Therapists / Coaches / Healers in Robert Burney’s Inner Healing Formula

“One very exciting new development I haveto announce in this Update is the launching of a Training program to trainCounselors / Therapists / Coaches / Healers / Mentors in how to teach otherpeople to apply the healing formula for Spiritual Integration and Emotional Balance / inner child healing / internal boundaries that I pioneered - in their own practices. This is something that I have been thinking of for awhile -and have mentioned in other Updates. It is an idea whose time has come.” - Joy2MeU Update Newsletter December 2007 In early 2001 I posted a page to help people with the process of choosing a therapist or counselor withdiscernment. On that page I shared that I get inquiries all the time from people who are looking for a counselor in theirlocal area that facilitates the kind of inner child healing work that I describe on my site. Below is the essence of my response, which is still the reality almost 7 years later. “I get at least a couple of e-mails every week from people whoare trying to find counselors and therapists in their local area who do thetype of inner child healing / codependency recovery work that I talk aboutin my book and on my web site. . . . . . . . . . . . The reality is that inner child healing and codependency recovery are still pretty new - and many very well meaning professionals out there do not know a lot about this work. My approach to the work is unique andpioneering, and no one out there is doing exactly what Ido and describe. You will find very few counselors and therapist who define codependence in as large a context as I do; many who do not see it as a Spiritual disease; many who have not done their own emotional work. I do not know of anyone who combines developing internal boundaries with doing the grief work as part of building an ongoing relationship with different ages of the child within - the framework that I developed for integrating knowledge of healthy behavior and Spiritual Truth into one’s emotional relationship with life. That is the most powerfully life changing and transformational aspect of my approach to the work. Your chances of finding someone who does exactly that kind ofwork are almost nil.” Choosing a therapist or counselor with discernment In August of 2001 I noted on my Referral Page - to Local Therapists / Counselors / Healers that I hoped to some day set up a program to teach others howto apply the approach I discovered and developed. “As I say in the quote just above, no one out there is doing exactly the work I do, because there are not yet any therapists or counselors who have studied my method so that they can help others to learn it. My approach to the work is unique, powerful, and very effective - and has been accurately described as “taking inner child healing to a new level.” One of the reasons that Co-Dependents Anonymous attendance declined during the mid to late nineties is because people did not know how to take the healing to the next level. . . . . The inner child healing paradigm that I have developed is that next level of recovery from codependency that so manypeople have been seeking. Hopefully, one of these daysI will be able to offer training to other healers so that they can learn it for themselves - and be able to teach it to others.”- Referral Page - to LocalTherapists / Counselors / Healers All these years later there is still no one who has specifically trained in how to teach my approach - so it truly is an idea whose time has come. I still get requests from people all the time for referrals - and Iget counselors, coaches, and other healers e-mailing to say how much they value my work and how they are planning to incorporate it in what they do. There have in fact, been a number counselors, coaches, psychotherapists, psychologists, etc., who have already done phone counseling with me - but with the focus being on their own personal process, not specifically on how to teach others to do the work. Teaching others how to do the work is a quite different perspective from just focusing on doing the work. In order to teach others how to do the work, it is necessary for a person to be doing the work themselves however. I mention in my book how it is not possible to be a guide for others unless one knows the way themselves. “It is also a vital part of the process to learn discernment. To learn to ask for help and guidance from people who are trustworthy, that means people who will not betray, abandon, shame, and abuse you. That means friends who will not abuse and betray you. That means counselors and therapists who will not judge and shame you and project their issues onto you. . . . . Someone who has not done her/his own emotionally healing grief work cannot guide you through yours. Or as John Bradshaw put it in his excellent PBS series on reclaiming the inner child, “No one can lead you somewhere that they haven’t been.”” - Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls Because of this, any training to facilitate the work will also include doing the work as part of the process. I am sure that anyone who signs up for this program will have done a lot of their own work already, so the emphasis willbe on applying the formula I teach to their own process asthey learn to teach it themselves. One of the reasons that telephone counseling has been so successful in helping me to refine and evolve my approach, is that I can work with each individual on their own level - which is something I will help those I train to be able to do. This is something I talk about on my bio page while sharing how my approach to the work has evolved. “The telephone counseling has proven tobe an excellent way in which to teach people how to apply my approach totheir inner child healing and codependency recovery in a way that aligns withhow each individual’s personal process is unfolding. One of the giftsI have had in my counseling work since I started it in recovery, is the abilityto meet a person wherever they are at in their process and help them to openup to the next level of growth for them. “There were two interrelated things that I had to get clear about when I started working as a therapist: One is that I am powerless over other people - over the pace of their progress, overwhether they hear what I am saying to them, over where theirpath leads. I watched a good friend die of Alcoholism (which is in a column in the Alcoholism section) and saw how clearly he helped other alcoholics stay sober because he couldn’t- he did more to keep more people sober than many of the sober people I know. I can’t know what someone else’s’ pathis - therefore I can’t tell them what is right and wrong. What I can do is help them see themselves clearer (especially as to understanding how their childhood experiences have dictated their lives), see their choices and the possible consequences clearer, and know that we are Spiritual Beings going to boarding school not taking a test we can fail. Which brings me to the second thing, which I believe is a Spiritual Truth - I teach best what I need most to learn. I teach people how to Love themselves because I am trying to learn how to Love myself. I learned to always listen to what I was saying because, though I have no control whether anyone else hears me, I do have the power to choose to hear myself - and there is always something in what I am saying that applies to me and my process in that moment. . . . . I am in process just as my clients are - just as weall are. There is no hierarchy as far as I am concerned -just one wounded person / Magnificent Spiritual Being sharing whathas worked for me with another wounded person / Magnificent SpiritualBeing. I am doing what I need to do for myself, to heal myself - it doesn’t have to do with anyone else - that it helps other people is just a bonus (and an opportunity to settle Karma).” - Joyto You & Me Newsletter I - July 1,1998 quoted in Choosing a therapist or counselor with discernment It has always been a challenge in workshops or groups to discern what levels and facets of the process to focus upon - because people can be at very different stages of recovery, quite different levels of consciousness. The telephone counseling has proven a wonderful venue for being able to help individuals to see where they are at on their own personal path with some clarity and compassion - from people who are just starting recovery to people who have been on a healing, spiritual path for many years.” - Biographical information At the foundation of my work is the belief that everyone is right where they are supposed to be on their own personal spiritual path / healing journey / recovery - and that my job is to help them to the next level of their process. There is never any shame or judgment aboutwhere a person is at - no expectations or projections of where they “should” be. I help them see where they are at more clearly, so they can start seeing their choices more clearly and become empowered to follow their own internal guidance on their recovery journey. A huge part of the process involves helping people to stop shaming and judging themselves, so that they can start to understand the cause and effect in their lives (bothin terms of cause in childhood and effects on adult life, and interms of internal cause and effect - their own personal internal dynamic that is manifesting their patterns and reactions) - so that they can start changing the things they have the power to change and learning to trust their own inner guidance while learning to relate more Lovingly to themselves. This is a perspective I will behelping people in the training program to bring to their own processand their work with others. I will be listing anyone who completes the program on my referral page and referring people to them (and probably come up with some kind of diploma like document.) The program itself will be a work in progress as I explore and evolve the process for teaching (what I just decided to call) The Wounded Souls Dancing in Light Approach / Formula. (Okay, so maybe that is a bit cumbersome - more will be revealed.;-) Because of that, I have set the rates at what I believe is a really reasonable price level - and will maintain these prices for at least 6 months as we get this training program up andrunning. I am considering giving those who enroll access to the subscription areas of my site, as well as determining what other literature might be helpful in the process. As I mention below in the sign up information for the program,it would be optimal if the participants would be able to attend anIntensive Training Day during the course of the program - and it ispossible with enough participation that I will eventually be ableto set up weekend Intensives just for people who want to learn howto teach the process. I very much want to share knowledge of thisapproach so that as many people as possible can have access to it. I Truly believe that the more people who learn how to apply this formula to do the internal work, the more it is going to speed up the healingof the human condition. I want to spread the knowledge so thatI am not the only one who can teach this approach - and hope this trainingprogram will prove to be a way to facilitate spreading the word. ~Robert 12/7/07 The goal in this Age of Healing and Joy is integration and balance. To integrate the Spiritual Truth into our physical experience so that we can fill the hole inside and find wholeness within. As we integrate our True Spiritual nature into our relationship with our physical being we can begin to achieve some balance and harmony with and between all of the parts of our being. This age is a time for growing and learning, a time to become conscious of the True nature of the Source Energy, a time of Spiritual Awakening. We have been given the wonder-full gift of having the ability and the tools to start integrating the Truth of a Loving Universal Force into our day-to-day experience of life. We now have the knowledge and guidance that we need to start bringing some balance to our relationships - with ourselves and our God/Goddess, with other people and the planet - so that we can live ina way that allows us to experience some Peace and Love on our lifepath. We can heal our wounded souls enough to change the dance of life from a dance of endurance and suffering to a dance that celebrates living. We now have access to the power to transform the dance of Codependenceto a dance of healing and Joy.

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